Being a senior in your last quarter of high school is filled with important decisions and A LOT of questions. Some of these questions are, “Where am I going to go after high school?” or “What am I going to do after high school?”
This is truly just a stressful time for everyone and we are all trying to make the best decisions we can. For those in a relationship, it becomes time to have the serious talk of whether or not they will put in the work to make the relationship work through long distance. Some choose to break up and others choose to stay together.
Many couples decide to stay together because they feel like they can make their relationship work. Being in a long-distance relationship offers a sense of independence, which ultimately builds a stronger relationship. In order to make a long-distance relationship work, you both need to be willing to make it work and want to make it work. Senior Keyla Rodriguez is going to try and make her relationship work. Keyla and Victor Villacana have been together for one year and since they’re both committed to CSUMB, it was a no-brainer to stay together. In terms of making their relationship work aside from school, they have a lot of factors that will help keep their relationship stronger than ever. “We live close and our families are very close,” Rodriguez said. The relationship their families have will definitely make it easier for them.
Some couples break up because they realize it is just better to start over on your own. But this doesn’t mean that the love and caring they had for each other never existed. Senior Ximena Estrada ended her relationship with her partner of 4 years because they are both going to different schools. “I feel like because we’re going on different paths, it’s only right we both get to experience college on our own,” Estrada said.
Breaking up because of college isn’t a bad thing and it doesn’t mean you guys “never loved each other.” College is a huge change for everyone and honestly going through all those changes on your own would be better.
My ex and I dated for 10 months, it was honestly the best part of my senior year and the best relationship I’ve had. I learned a lot from this relationship and I will always be grateful for the experience it brought me.
It was a mutual break-up and I truly have nothing negative to say about him. We ended the relationship because we’re going to different schools and it was going to be a lot to try to make it work. Looking at the break-up, I’m glad we broke it off now and ended on good terms rather than potentially ending the relationship in the future and we end up hating each other. As many couples, who decide to do long-distance, do.
Whether you and your partner decide to stay together or break up, your decision is the right one. We are all growing and you shouldn’t feel guilty for choosing what’s best for you. If you and your partner broke up, it might feel like you didn’t make the right choice. It’s okay to start second-guessing yourself, especially right after the break-up. Don’t go back, accept the end of the break-up. Think of the fact that we’re all starting over soon, don’t bring situations from the past to your future.