People say when you know you know. They also say you don’t know what you don’t know. That’s kind of how relationships are, at least that’s the way mine started. 

It all started back in 7th grade, when I was at home, scrolling through my phone, and I found this girl that I started talking to. 

As we started talking more, her two friends came up to me and I thought one of them was cute.  They both asked what I thought about her and what not.

Later that day I saw the cute girl, Evelyn, so I took my chances and cut off the other girl and asked for her friend’s number. The conversation was pretty awkward because she just seemed very lost in her words and I was very nonchalant about it since my feelings weren’t so strong for her.

Once I got Evelyn’s number it all went pretty slow. There was not a lot of talking going on, but it was not awkward. 

I saw how we had a pretty good thing going on, even though we started off with a few words. It was not until promotion day at Alvarez High School, when we were both there because our older cousins were promoting into high school that things started to move a little quicker. 

As the ceremony was coming to an end, I saw her at the exit and she said “Hi.” Very enthusiastically, believe it or not, that little interaction started it all. 

Then it was summer break and that was when we started texting every single day, and talking to each other, and then in the early start of 8th grade we made it official on November 5th, 2023.

From then on, our relationship has just kept on growing stronger and stronger by the day. 

We have shared so many fun adventures together, such as going to Lover’s Point and watching the sun set. And we have learned so much about each other since then, like how hilarious she really is and how our sense of humor is very similar. 

And honestly, my feelings for her have never faltered. The more I got to know her, the more in love I felt because I got to see more of the real her in a closer sense in a way no one else has. 

We also grew a really big shared love for the San Francisco 49ers, which has been my favorite team since I was little, and I got her to like it as much as I do by constantly talking about them. 

What sealed it was when we watched the NFC Championship game against the Detroit Lions. The Niners were down by 17 points, but out of nowhere something just clicked after half time and they ended up winning 34-31 to go to the Super Bowl. That game really got her latched on to the team because it showed a really crazy comeback. 

She introduced me to Starbucks. I wasn’t really a big fan since I did not know what to order, but then she introduced me to my go to, iced white chocolate mocha.

When things are getting troubling in relationships, like arguing about dumb things or toxicity, people tend to give up easily and not stay committed to it because it’s the fastest way to avoid all the issues. 

The way we stay committed to each other is by communicating well with one another about what we like and don’t like, as well as what we feel comfortable with and what we don’t and with lots of patience and understanding each other. 

One thing we do that I think sets us apart from other couples is that we also like to match our clothes. And we match every single day. 

During freshman year, we would match sometimes, but not as much as we do now. Before it was more of a match for an event going on type of thing, but it was very random. When we started matching on a daily basis, we just did it for a week straight around the beginning of sophomore year and then we thought this should be our thing and just continued to do so. Our matching consists mostly of color coordinating our outfits, not wearing exactly the same clothes.

I think the reason our relationship works is because of how close we are to each other and how well we manage our problems whether they are personal or between us. 

Although we are not together at all times, like in between classes that we don’t have together, or weekends that we don’t hang out with each other, or when one of us goes on vacation we still find time to hang out and catch up with one another and we trust each other very much and because of that we have a really good longevity together.

As a result of our long-lasting relationship, a lot of people in our age group, like our friends, come to us for relationship advice because they see us as a reliable source of advice. 

They usually ask how we stay together for so long and what we do to keep each other happy. My response is that if you’re looking at my relationship as a way of seeing your own relationship, it may not work because everyone’s love life might be different and what really matters in a relationship is that you love each other and you have to work to make it work.